Treat your emotions well
Watch what’s happening in your body-pay attention to what’s going on inside you.
Feel the energy moving inside.
If anger is there, feel the boiling inside.
If fear is there, feel the tremor.
No matter what is happening, allowing it to be there is the second big step.
Do not suppress it or express it (unless you are alone).
Become aware of how this particular emotion manifests in the body: where do you feel it?
How does it feel?
Try to avoid scorn labels, as any critique of these emotions will defeat your purpose.
If you oppose them you will not be aware of how they work.
Also be careful not to define them, don’t stop the mind from creating stories for this situation, and don’t get lost in the reasons why there are these emotional reactions. This is another obstacle to awareness.
It is easier to contradict than to say, because the mind is keen to chew those stories.
But at least practice (and meditation is necessary at the same time), you will consider these stories, these rationalization reasons, just the mind, just the idea.
Their only real ingredient is that you give all these energy.
When you notice that you are in your head, simply say to yourself, “This is the head.”
Doing so can help you break your perception of the reason your mind is preparing for your response.
Because if you can see your mind, you won’t get lost in it.
Instead, you can enjoy watching the wonderful performance of the mind-watching the story weaving for the situation, watching it as if watching a movie, or like watching other people’s minds.
You will see that the mind just can’t control itself, it will immediately assume the worst facts, and then rationalize the automatic reaction in your body by blame each other.
At the same time pay attention to a strong inertia of the mind, it will continue to fuel your emotions through its interpretation of the facts, constantly explaining why you should be unhappy.
The mind just can’t let go, can it?
Through practice, you will more easily separate yourself from the rationalization of the mind, and simply admit: “This is just the mind” without criticism.
Then, you can turn your attention to the awareness of physical reactions in the body and feel what is actually happening in your body at the moment.
As you will see, emotions are really just energy-energy that moves inside the body.
If you can take it seriously and clearly (some, neither defined nor critical), you will see that all emotions-all emotional energy-have different qualities.
You may find that anger has its enthusiasm, passion, and vitality; sorrow has its depth, calmness, and a certain fragrance; fear has excitement.
See what you find, remember not to bring any critiques or labels, just look, as if you are a scientist exploring something completely new.
The wonderful thing is that when you allow emotions and look at their physical response in your body, they cooperate with them no matter what is happening instead of resisting, and even enjoying them, they will change.
Energy is always moving and changing.
If you don’t stop it, suppress it, and don’t vent it to others, then you can allow it to express itself in a healthy and natural way, and then you find that it changes.
When the body is unwell, it needs to eat; when the body is frightened, it needs to tremble; when the body is angry, it needs to scream and scream (not to whom), take out the cushions, and slam for one or a long-distance run, and then it ends.
So, if you don’t block the mental response that comes from interpreting the situation in your mind, you may be able to turn your attention to the physical response of the body.
After a while, these reactions will calm down if they are allowed to do what they do.